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3 Personality Tests to Better Understand Yourself and Others

I’m usually not a big fan of personality tests, especially those that label us solely based on our birthdates.

However, there are three personality tests have helped me tremendously in understanding myself and my life patterns better. They’ve brought me clarity (even relief!) and have shown me ways to capitalize on my natural strengths and balance out my weaknesses. They’ve also helped me understand others better, which has improved the quality of my relationships.

In this article, I explain what these three tests are and how they can improve the quality of your life as well. I’ll also tell you where you can take each test.

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Personality Test #1: Figure Out Your Ayurvedic Archetype

The first personality test will help you figure out your Ayurvedic archetype (also called “dosha”). This is one of the most useful things I’ve learned in the past couple of years.

Ayurveda is the oldest health system in the world; it comes from India and is the sister science of Yoga.

According to Ayurveda, there are three main archetypes (called “doshas”): Vata, Pitta, and Kapha.  Each archetype has a specific set of characteristics that influence our mental and emotional states and physical health.

Everyone has the three archetypes but in different proportions. We usually have one dosha or archetype that’s predominant.

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Vata Dosha

Vata is associated with the element of air. People who are predominantly Vata tend to be very creative, think outside the box, and are free-spirited.

When their Vata is out of balance (when it’s too intense), they are easily distracted and quickly get bored. They tend to have difficulty committing to one thing and following through on their ideas. Also, because they are prone to overthinking, they commonly experience anxiety and insomnia.

Some of the biggest strengths of Vata are their creativity and independence. However, they often struggle to focus and follow through.

I’m very, very Vata. For a long time, I thought there was something inherently wrong with me because I changed my mind constantly, and I often started projects that didn’t see the light of day. As you can imagine, I wasn’t progressing much in life.

For us Vata people, it’s essential to learn to channel our creative energy efficiently and stay focused and grounded. We do better by working on one project or building one habit at a time and avoiding multitasking. Although we tend to be allergic to routines, they can greatly help us to stay organized.

In my own life, yoga has helped me tremendously in regards to staying grounded, present, and far less stuck in my head.

 

Pitta Dosha

The second dosha is Pitta, which is associated with the element of fire.

Think of people who are highly organized, active, go-getters, type-A personalities, and high achievers. A typical Pitta person could efficiently work as a manager or CEO or be an entrepreneur.

They tend to have more self-discipline and willpower than the other archetypes. They have no difficulty taking action and following through on their ideas. Contrary to Vata, they love structure and having routines.

However, an unbalanced Pitta person (when Pitta is too intense) can become excessively “fiery” and quickly get impatient or frustrated. They can also overwork themselves to the point of burnout.

It’s essential for this type of person to incorporate leisure and time to rest into their routine and practice self-care. Downtime and relaxation are vital for them.

 

Kapha Dosha

The third archetype is Kapha. Kapha people tend to be naturally grounded and present. They are friendly by nature and have a calm, nurturing, and relaxed energy.

When Kapha is out of balance (when it’s too intense), they can become lethargic, stuck, stagnant, and even insecure.

To balance out an excess of Kapha energy, one can include variety in their routine, like trying new activities, hobbies, and different cuisines. Physical activity and any type of movement are also beneficial to Kapha people.

I’ve talked about the three doshas’ mental aspects, but each archetype also has its own physical strengths and weaknesses too, and certain types of food are more appropriate for each archetype.

I highly encourage you to take this quiz to figure out your dominant dosha. It’s free, and you’ll learn about ways you can take better care of yourself and improve your lifestyle based on your dosha.

But before you do so, I would like to tell you about two other useful personality tests.

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Personality Test #2: Discover Your Tendency (The Four Tendencies)

The second personality test that has helped me better understand myself and others is The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Rubin.

This test helps us discover how we respond to inner and outer expectations. Inner expectations are those we set for ourselves, such as New Year’s resolutions. Outer expectations can be deadlines, rules, or a request from a friend.

Knowing your Tendency will help you build or break habits, achieve your goals, and live a more fulfilling life. It’ll also help you understand other people’s perspectives and enable you to communicate better with them.

I’ll quickly explain the Four Tendencies and then tell you where you can take a quiz to determine which one you are.

Upholders

The first Tendency is the Upholder. Upholders readily meet both inner and outer expectations.

They easily meet deadlines, follow the rules and instructions, and have the discipline to follow through on their commitments to themselves (for example, going to the gym or quitting sugar).

This personality type has no problem building good habits or breaking bad ones, and they do what they know they should do (to be happier, healthier, etc.) even when they don’t feel like it.

However, because of their need to always follow the rules, others can perceive them as strict and uptight.

I have a feeling that many Upholders are also Pitta (Ayurvedic dosha).

 

Obligers

Obligers form the larger group with 40% of the population.

They easily meet outer expectations like deadlines and requests from other people but struggle to meet their expectations for themselves.

For example, an Obliger who wants to get in shape might struggle going to the gym if there’s no external pressure pushing them to do so. To meet their expectations for themselves, they need external accountability.

The good thing is that it’s usually not that hard to find accountability. For example, to get in shape, one could hire a coach, a personal trainer, or find a gym buddy.

 

Questioners

The Questioners question everything and need to know the ins and outs of a situation or request before making a decision. Their motto is “Why?”

In The Four Tendencies, Gretchen Ruben wrote:

“Questioners show a deep commitment to information, logic, and efficiency. They want to gather their facts, decide for themselves, and act with good reason; they object to anything they consider arbitrary, ill-reasoned, ill-informed, or ineffective.”

Questioners easily meet an inner expectation when it makes sense to them – they’ll have no problem stopping eating sugar if they have solid proof that it will improve their health.

However, they will refuse to meet outer expectations if those seem unjustified or unreasonable. If a rule doesn’t make sense to them, they won’t follow it.

The main downside of the Questioner Tendency is that they tend to overanalyze their options to the point of reaching indecisiveness. Their constant questioning can also tire other people and even get them into arguments.

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Rebels

The last of the Four Tendencies is the Rebel. Rebels fail to meet both inner and outer expectations. They resist all forms of control and even resist meeting the expectations they set for themselves.

The Rebel’s motto is “I do what I want, when I want, and the way I want.”

(I’m a Rebel, and I can tell you that it’s not easy to be one.)

If they want to do anything, rebels must genuinely want to do it. That’s the key to their success.

Because self-discipline is “doing what we know we should do, even when we don’t feel like it,” it’s clear that Rebels are not disciplined. They are obsessed with freedom, and for them, the ability to choose is vital.

On the good side, they also tend to think outside the box and are the ones who challenge the status quo (along with Questioners).

You can take The Four Tendencies quiz here. Knowing your Tendency will help you understand and accept yourself more and understand other people’s perspectives and behavior as well. 

Personality Test #3: Discover Your Love Language (The 5 Love Languages)

The last personality test that has improved the quality of my life, and more specifically the quality of my romantic life, is “The 5 Love Languages.”

The 5 Love Languages are five different ways of expressing and receiving love:

  1. Words of affirmation
  2. Quality time
  3. Receiving gifts
  4. Acts of service
  5. Physical touch

Here’s the thing: not everyone communicates and likes to receive love in the same way.

For example, my love language is quality time. What’s most important to me in a relationship, what makes me feel loved and appreciated, is that my partner or even my friends give me their undivided attention when they are with me.

There’s nothing more insulting to me than having a coffee with someone who’s constantly looking at their phone. It makes me feel unimportant. Because it’s how I like to receive love, it’s also how I tend to demonstrate my love and appreciation to others.

Now, let’s say that my partner’s love language is words of affirmation.

If I give him my undivided attention but never tell him that I love and appreciate him, he risks not feeling loved. That’s because he needs to hear it. In the same way, if he shows me his love through words of encouragement and by giving me compliments, I might not get it.

Over time, this misunderstanding could lead to problems in our relationship. By knowing each other’s love language, we can better communicate our appreciation one to another.

I believe this information can really improve the quality of a romantic relationship and even close friendships.

You can take the quiz to know your love language here. If you’re in a romantic relationship (especially a new relationship), it could be a good idea to have your partner take the quiz too and talk about your results.

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You’ll Get a Goldmine of Information in Just a Few Minutes!

Again, although I’m usually not a fan of personality tests, these three tests have helped me tremendously in understanding myself and others.

Taking each of these three tests will only take you a few minutes, and the insights you’ll gain will help you:

  1. Make better lifestyle choices (Ayurvedic doshas)
  2. Achieve your goals (The Four Tendencies)
  3. Deepen your love relationship (The 5 Love Languages)

I hope this article was helpful to you.

Have a beautiful week.

Emilie 

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