You CAN Feel Happy Most of the Time. Here’s How…

How to feel happy

Hey, I'm Emilie!

A certified life coach, meditation instructor, and spiritual entrepreneur. I’m here to help you create a vibrant life around your higher purpose and heart’s desires. 

These three happiness tips will make you glow from the inside out.

These happiness hacks are very simple things you can do to reduce symptoms of depression or simply become a generally more positive and joyful person.

They won’t take much of your time, and they’ve all been scientifically proven to boost happiness.

I love talking about ways to increase happiness and positivity because I struggled with mild episodes of depression when I was younger.

All through high school and most of my twenties, every two months or so, I would experience sadness and anxiety, along with loneliness, even when I had people around me. It was a strange, cyclical thing that would always seem to come back every couple of months.

A few things have helped me break the negative thought patterns, develop a more positive attitude, and begin to feel more joyful.

That’s what I want to share with you today.

(I’ve also added a bonus tip at the end.)

So, let’s begin!

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Happiness Hack #1: Wishing-Well: A 10-Second Exercise

The first hack to be happy is a 10-second exercise from Chade-Meng Tan, the man behind the mindfulness-based emotional intelligence course for employees at Google called “Search Inside Yourself.”

I learned about this exercise in Tim Ferriss’s book, Tool of Titans.

It’s so simple: every couple of hours during the day, take ten seconds to secretly wish happiness to a few strangers you see.

Don’t say anything or even make eye-contact with them. Just send a sincere, caring intention and mentally wish the two or three people you chose to be well.

That’s it!

It might seem too simple to be truly effective, but it works!

At the end of the day, you’ll feel happier because you’ll have trained your mind to pull your focus away from your problems and instead trigger feelings of compassion.

Compassion is one of the most peaceful emotions we can experience and is an antidote to depression and self-loathing.

The Dalai Lama says:

“I have found that the greatest degree of inner tranquility comes from the development of love and compassion. The more we care for the happiness of others, the greater is our own sense of well-being. Cultivating a close, warm-hearted feeling for others automatically puts the mind at ease.”

Compassion is scientifically proven to reduce self-criticism, symptoms of depression, and loneliness, as well as increase emotional intelligence and life satisfaction.

Try it for yourself!

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Happiness Hack #2: Override the Brain’s Negative Bias

The second hack is to help you stop negative thought patterns.

If you tend to be pessimistic and have negative thoughts, know that it’s not your fault.

The brain is hardwired to focus on the negative rather than the positive. There’s even a name for this: “the brain’s negative bias.”

To give you an example, let’s say that you’ve published a book on Amazon. Out of fifty reviews, two are negative, and forty-eight are positive. You’ll likely notice and give more importance to the two negative reviews than the forty-eight good ones. People with a strong negative bias might even conclude that their book must be bad, lose motivation to write another book, and may even start to doubt their writing abilities.

This bias of the brain alters our perception and can be quite destructive.

Since what we focus on grows and intensifies, we reinforce the pattern every time we engage in negative thinking or worrying.

To get out of it, we must override the brain’s negative bias. The good news is that it’s very easy to do.

The most effective way to train yourself to notice more of the positive in your life is by practicing gratitude.

Before you roll your eyes, let me share with you my favorite gratitude exercise.

I know you’re probably tired of hearing about gratitude, but there’s a reason why every single successful person talks about it: it’s because it works. And if you’re feeling chronically unhappy, you’re probably not practicing gratitude very often.

Gratitude is THE most effective tool to override the brain’s negative bias quickly, and there’s a ton of scientific studies that prove it.

Here’s my favorite way to practice gratitude: 

Step 1:

As you go to bed at night, close your eyes and scan your entire day in your mind from the moment you woke up in the morning to the present, and recall all the little things that made you feel good. It doesn’t have to be significant; it can be something as simple as drinking a good cup of coffee, someone holding the door for you, a compliment from a colleague, a smile from a stranger, or anything else that was positive in your day.

Step 2:

For each moment, take five to ten seconds to feel appreciation.

Step 3:

When you’re done scanning your day, if you haven’t fallen asleep yet, repeat the exercise until you do. Try to find even more subtle moments that made you happy.

Unless you have insomnia, you’ll probably fall asleep quickly and likely even before completing the exercise.

Because you’re doing it just before falling asleep, it starts a wave of positive feelings that continues to flow throughout the night. You’ll probably notice that you sleep better and wake up happier in the morning.

And very quickly, you’ll develop a generally more positive attitude.

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Happiness Hack #3: Trigger the “Helper’s High”

The third happiness hack is to trigger what neuroscientists call the “Helper’s High.” 

The “Helper’s High” is the almost euphoric feeling you experience when you help others. 

This is because when you help someone, there’s a release of endorphins in your brain, making you feel happier.

It’s true that when we feel sad and depressed, one of the last things we think of doing is helping other people. On the contrary, we tend to become more selfish.

But helping others is one of the best things you can do to boost your mood.

You can start small: go for a walk and keep a bit of change in your pocket to give to a homeless person.

Your good deed doesn’t have to be money, though. Every act of kindness works. You could simply make sure to always hold the door for the person behind you, for example.

The idea is to do something nice and helpful for someone and not expect anything in return.

That’s how you’ll trigger the “helper’s high.”

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BONUS Happiness Tip: Connect with Your True Nature

I can pretty much promise that by doing the three things mentioned in this article every day for a month, you’ll be a happier and more positive person.

These three exercises are really easy, and they work. Try them and let me know how you feel in a couple of weeks.

But there’s one more thing you can do to find real and lasting happiness: know and connect with your true nature, the part of you that isn’t conditioned and doesn’t experience fear and anxiety.

How do you do that? Through meditation. Meditation is the number one thing that has made me become a happier and more positive person. It transformed my entire life from the inside out, and it can do the same for you. 

If you’re new to meditation or have tried it in the past without much success, I encourage you to try this meditation technique. It’s the easiest and most popular technique. 

Then, you’ll truly glow from the inside out!

Much love,

Emilie 

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